Couples from any cultural background face challenges in the areas of intimacy, finances and parenting. The one biggest challenge that couples bring to me is Communication.
I am an attachment informed therapist and provide emotional containment to couple’s painful feelings and address their relationship anxiety with compassion.
What to expect in couples’ therapy?
In the initial stage, (4-10 sessions) therapy is focussed on establishing a therapeutic alliance with each member of the couple, and on calming your anxiety and distress in this difficult situation. We will together explore and identify the beliefs, behaviours and patterns of interaction which are causing the problems. Together we will work to understand the interpersonal themes that give rise to your difficulties with certain feelings. Throughout this working stage, you will begin to experiment with ways to change the negative patterns. At the same time, you will be learning about yourself and about each other, and without blaming and defensiveness you will explore ways to communicate more clearly and honestly with each other.
Sometimes, despite best efforts of all parties, it is not possible to repair the relationship. If this is the case, I will at that time, refer you to the appropriate service that can assist you with your decision.
Here are a few suggestions that I share with my couples.
- The Relationship Cure, John Gottman Ph.D.
- 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman
- Website: www.gottman.com
- Hot Monogamy, Patricia Love, M.D. and Jo Robinson, 1994
- Intimate Relations, Sudhir Kakar, ISBN 9780140122664, 1989